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For a generation of SWANS — Strong Women Achievers, No Spouse — these myths have become conventional wisdom.
If you attended a good school, have an impressive job, have career aspirations or dream of future success, men will find you less attractive.
They’d think we were argumentative, pushy, feminazis.
Really, we’re traditional in a lot of ways and are afraid of being judged negatively like that.” Given this prevalent conventional wisdom, it perhaps comes as no surprise that the romantic lives of accomplished women make front-page headlines only to tout bad news.
He said, ‘Oh, I get it, you’re one of those super-smart superachievers that scare the men off.'” “I didn’t really know how to respond,” Anne recalled of her colleague’s character assessment, but other women have a strategy in place.
They instinctually “dumb it down” or pretend to be someone they’re not.
” Spreading Myths Ironically, it’s two successful women, a well-educated and influential economist in her 60s and a pioneering journalist in her 50s, both of whom accomplished so much ahead of their time, who have done the most to scare off younger ones from pursuing similar paths to success.
In 2002, Sylvia Ann Hewlett presented a study of high-achieving women who weren’t marrying or having children at the same rates as other women.
In her book she stoked the flames of panic among successful women: “Nowadays, the rule of thumb seems to be that the more successful the woman, the less likely it is she will find a husband or bear a child.” She argued that high-achieving women who were still single at age 30 had a less than 10 percent chance of ever marrying.
They want someone who is going to be at home.” This stunt became popular enough to inspire a episode.
Miranda, the high-powered lawyer, tells a man she meets at a speed-dating event that she’s a flight attendant. Both of them are lying — she to diminish her status, and he to inflate it.